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Love, Nisei Style

Teens dancing, maybe at the Valentine’s Day at Slocan City Community Hall during the war.

Dion and the Belmonts made the doo wop song famous with “Teenagers in Love.” We could call this segment “Nisei-gers in Love.” Was this the clash of the old world Issei tradition versus the new world Canadian way?

When the first Japanese immigrants came to British Columbia in the late 1800s, most were single men involved in menial occupations. They worked for very low pay and basically had no hopes for promotion. In their spare time they drank and gambled away their savings. Japanese men went to Chinatown to play mah jong. The lottery ticket game that looked similar to Keno was called baka pay. There was little hope in winning the lottery. Not too far away down Alexander Street was the red light district.

Things changed after 1908. In order to have more stability, bachelor men needed wives. The Hayashi-Lemieux Gentlemen Arrangement limited Japanese immigration but the loophole was that women were exempt. The “Picture Bride” phenomenon was soon underway.

Of course, my imagination may run wild. Yet, there could be a little bit of truth in my speculation to this scenario. It was not in old Japanese culture and tradition that a man needed to take his date to a katsudo shashin (movie). He only needed to send a photo of himself and hoped that the other side of the family approved and allowed the daughter to go abroad to marry this stranger. All one needed was an omiai or a nakodo (middleman) to consummate the marriage.

There could have been several scenarios that played out when the ladies got off the ship. When I saw the prospective women in the photo, they all had the same hairstyle, not a beehive doo, but more like a nest where an eagle could lay eggs! There were many stories passed down to a point where they have become legendary.

A man of forty-two would ask a handsome young man for his photo and send it away. The young bride-to-be is expecting this good-looking dude, but to her shock she sees this “old” man! I have heard stories that this one lady rowed across the river to marry another person. Another lady picked any young man out of the crowd just so that she could avoid marrying this homely man who was selected by her family. On the flip side, men didn’t know the background of the prospective brides. Some of the ladies could have been a bar hostess or one of her family members could have a criminal record, so she had little chance of getting married in Japan.

As for the immigrant farmers, beauty was not mandatory as long as she had strong daikon ashi (white-radish legs) to hoe and pick weeds. Some men took photos standing in front of a car or a beautiful house to make them more desirable. Poor ladies who fell for this trick! Some ended up in the far north like the Nass Valley in cannery houses or a shed behind the farm owner’s house. “Dem” were the days.

From 1910 to about 1915, the early Nisei children followed the tradition of their parents. The boys worked hard in the field or in the mill to help out the family. The girls were taught sewing and cooking. Most of the marriages were arranged, just like their parents. Some of the children were sent back to Japan for education and thus became Kika-Nisei or Kibei when they returned.

Children who were born in Canada around the 1920s started attending public schools. Their lifestyle changed. The growing pains that came from listening to their Issei parents on one hand or becoming more independent with the teachings of mainstream public schools on the other could have caused some conflicts. The Issei parents still wanted to choose a bride or groom for their son or daughter.

By the time Nisei kids became teenagers, they loved dancing to the big band music and socializing with the opposite sex. Young Nisei loved to dress up, go watch the Asahi baseball games, do some shopping, or take a trolley to see a movie. More and more, the teens would have crushes and fall in love. It was quite rare at that time when two people married because they were in love. It was like, “Did you know that their marriage was not arranged?”

Nisei party

“Boys will be boys” is an old saying. Whenever a guy was lucky to have a girlfriend, other boys would become very curious and quiz the poor fella with many silly questions. It’s as if they had never left the Asahi ball game. One might ask, “Did you reach first base with her?” “Did you strike out?” Very seldom did I hear anyone saying he hit a home run, especially on the first date. No one wanted to go there in order to save the girl’s reputation. I heard the word “safe” from time to time, but it was en Francais. If girls changed partners too many times, they were called “tramp” or “floozy.”

I’m surmising as to how the girls’ talk sounded. It may have taken on the air of a horse race at Hastings Park. A girl after a date with a certain boy might comment, “Boy, he was Fast Eddy!” “All Hands on Deck,” “Shy Tai,” “Sukebe,” “Real Mover,” but I don’t know if any girl would brag that her date was a “Stud.”

In the 1950s, Nisei teenagers were given more freedom. Parents had more means to buy a car or to own a house. Once they were allowed back to the coast, teens had to re-start their lives by reconnecting with old friends from school.

My cousin, Yvonne Wakabayashi, told me that much of the socializing took place at institutions like the high school, Japanese Language School, university, and the Chinese Social Club. They went in groups to have a wiener roast at Jericho Beach, house parties, movies, drive-ins, and lot of dances. Yvonne told me that this was a great way to meet boys from the Fraser Valley, students from small towns attending University of British Columbia, or her brothers would bring friends over to the house. One danger with the latter was that if she broke up with her brother’s friend, brother was minus a tomodachi.

Picking berries in the Fraser Valley or working in the canneries gave Nisei youths more chance to meet people their own age. This was still a time when Asians had their own social activities like the Nisei Bowling League at the Commodore.

My sister, Lurana, told me that when they went to Vancouver, there were many dance halls back then. There were the Arlington, Hastings Auditorium, and the Commodore. Arlington was located on Broadway near where the Denny’s Restaurant is located and Hastings Auditorium was on East Hastings near Clark Drive. There was a Commodore Night Club that held many banquets and dances. Of course, the Nisei had their own bowling league there. Lurana thinks that a Nisei church group organized these dances.

Teens at Popoff Internment camp in the ’40s. The boys were too shy to chase girls.

Lurana and Gail Kariya reminisced that on one side of the dance hall, boys hung out, and the other side, girls were all “dolled up” in their frilly dresses waiting to be asked for a dance. Once music started, a swarm of boys rushed toward the girls like a tsunami! The most embarrassing experience was that once the boys selected their dance partners, some of the girls were left sitting or standing! That’s where the term “wallflower” came to be. They looked pretty in their dresses but they stood all night waiting for someone to come ask them for a dance. That was the most humiliating time for girls. Another incident was when the Kika-Nisei from Japan knew only one English sentence, “May I dance?” As they approached the girls, they would repeat this. Some of the cheeky girls would giggle and reply, “Go ahead!” I guess they forgot to add “with you.”

Teens at Popoff Internment camp in the ’40s. Girls in kimonos.

In Greenwood, young Nisei congregated at Masonic Hall for dances with the local band, The Starlighters. They also travelled to Rock Creek Community Hall and to Christina Lake Dance Hall. At Christina Lake, it was a good way to check out new boys or girls because most were tourists from out of town.

Greenwood Boys in the ’40s.

The modern world has changed dramatically since the days of the Nisei growing up in internment camps and thereafter. I can just imagine some Nisei grandparents lamenting, “My, how easy it is for these young kids nowadays. Couples can live as common-law partners and have two or three children before deciding to apply for a marriage license. Mixed marriages are common and there are so many hapa children. They have more choices. Now, back in our day, it was traumatic. Unwanted pregnancy was a life and death crisis, therefore, it was called “shotgun wedding,” both literally and figuratively! A couple HAD to get married. Remember the song by Claude King, “Wolverton Mountain? “They say don’t go to Wolverton Mountain. He’s mighty handy with a gun and a knife…” Interracial marriage was still “unchartered waters.’ Parents didn’t know how the children would turn out. Babies were called “ai-no-ko.” Now we call them hapas.

I am hoping the younger Nikkei generation will get a sense of what their grandparents’ lives looked and felt like back in those days, lot of gaman, or perseverance. Yet, it was a much simpler time in some ways that the Nisei folks wouldn’t take back. Today there is more freedom and flexibility for the younger generation that the Nisei elders would be envious of. The Romeo and Juliet scene would not have played out so many times. In the end though, Nisei parents did a wonderful job of raising their children.

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NISEI TALK

Sumi: “Hey, hari-kata (courting) again? Who’s the unlucky girl? You always get the ‘snow job!’”

Nobby: “Uru-sai! I’ll be lucky this time! The boys are checking out the Commodore. Vernon girls came fresh into the city.”

Sumi: “Don’t be fussy, just aim low. Don’t you act like a bakatare!”

Nobby: “A hunting we will go, a hunting we will go, hi ho a merrio….”

Sumi: (hours later) “Hey, hitori bochi again?”

Nobby: “Shikataga-nai! Ma-ke-ta, ma-ke-ta….sakana gun! (“Can’t be helped! Lost again, son of a gun!”)

 

*This article was originally published in the Geppo The Bulletin: a journal of Japanese Canadian community, history + culture in the April 2016 issue.

 

© 2016 Chuck Tasaka

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