I am living in the house of a Nagasaki survivor(age 14, now 70+)who was a war bride some years back. She has completed Chemothearpy for Colon cancer and her daughter has terminal Breast cancer that has gone to the brain. My search is for information on the role a Traditional Japanese Grandmother plays in the household. My wife and I have 2 kids that are growing up American BUT Obaachan is always watching NHK and expecting me the Gaijin to do everything. Her husband recently died and I am the oldest male in the house. My wife and I moved into the house to take care of them both as the Husband had a stroke and was disabled for 8 years and Obaachan would and could not care for him. She still works but has put off retirement each year as I am afraid she is afraid to retire as she will have nothing to do. I am looking for guidance on Traditional Roles the Grandmother takes so that I can give her purpose in life outside of work, without her feeling or resulting to frustration that she has seen her husband die and daughter die before her.
HELP
CarmelCareGiv